I realize that not everyone is capable of dedoublement*, and I don’t know if it can be taught. What I do know is that there would be an significant decrease in drama, wasted time, pain, and anger if it could. I would wager that only roughly 45% of the people I know are capable of detaching themselves from situations to look at things from a cold, factual, objective point of view. Those people tend to achieve whatever goals they set for themselves. Sometimes they’re also considered cut-throat or heartless, but it’s not necessarily a requirement.Â
I have watched family, friends, and even public figures nearly, if not completely, destroy themselves (careers, relationships, friendships, you name it) because they refuse to even attempt to remove their own emotions from the equation and look at facts. I don’t just mean personal feelings, as in how you feel, but how society plays into your understanding of circumstances as well. If people were more honest about facts, behaviors, and their contributions, people’s lives would be a hell of a lot more different.