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Charity is the theological virtue by which we love God above all things for his own sake, and our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God.

Jesus makes charity the new commandment. By loving his own “to the end,” he makes manifest the Father’s love which he receives. By loving one another, the disciples imitate the love of Jesus which they themselves receive. Whence Jesus says: “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you; abide in my love.” And again: “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.”

Fruit of the Spirit and fullness of the Law, charity keeps the commandments of God and his Christ: “Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love.”

Christ died out of love for us, while we were still “enemies.” The Lord asks us to love as he does, even our enemies, to make ourselves the neighbor of those farthest away, and to love children and the poor as Christ himself.

The Apostle Paul has given an incomparable depiction of charity: “charity is patient and kind, charity is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Charity does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Charity bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

“If I . . . have not charity,” says the Apostle, “I am nothing.” Whatever my privilege, service, or even virtue, “if I . . . have not charity, I gain nothing.” Charity is superior to all the virtues. It is the first of the theological virtues: “So faith, hope, charity abide, these three. But the greatest of these is charity.”

The practice of all the virtues is animated and inspired by charity, which “binds everything together in perfect harmony”; it is the form of the virtues; it articulates and orders them among themselves; it is the source and the goal of their Christian practice. Charity upholds and purifies our human ability to love, and raises it to the supernatural perfection of divine love.

The practice of the moral life animated by charity gives to the Christian the spiritual freedom of the children of God. He no longer stands before God as a slave, in servile fear, or as a mercenary looking for wages, but as a son responding to the love of him who “first loved us”:

If we turn away from evil out of fear of punishment, we are in the position of slaves. If we pursue the enticement of wages, . . . we resemble mercenaries. Finally if we obey for the sake of the good itself and out of love for him who commands . . . we are in the position of children.

The fruits of charity are joy, peace, and mercy; charity demands beneficence and fraternal correction; it is benevolence; it fosters reciprocity and remains disinterested and generous; it is friendship and communion: Love is itself the fulfillment of all our works. There is the goal; that is why we run: we run toward it, and once we reach it, in it we shall find rest.

The Young and the Bored

Here’s an interesting sequence of articles and letters regarding Pittsburgh’s hopes for attracting young people. I like Pittsburgh and I think I’d like to raise a family here. I think I’m a rarity, though. I came to Da Burgh in ’95 to go to Pitt. I’ve been here ever since. Most students, it seems, fly like bats out of hell after graduation day. I think Pittsburgh’s a nice town and instead of cursing the darkness, I’m going to light a candle.

Pittsburgh Is A Pit For Singles
By Davide Dukcevich

Pittsburgh may be the best place in the world to watch a football game, but it’s the worst place in America to be stuck with a lonely heart.”

Forbes magazine, you’re nuts: I’m 21 and I love Pittsburgh
By Megan Branning

“I would like to respond to the Forbes magazine ranking of Pittsburgh as the worst city for young singles (“No Place to Be Single,” June 8 Business). I think Forbes is way off on this.”

The Post-Gazette’s perky pen pal
By Dave Copeland

Megan Branning, I’m glad you love it here, but I still think you’re going overboard when you call Forbes magazine “nuts” for ranking Pittsburgh the worst of 40 cities for singles. Needless to say, your letter was emailed among the boosters today as if to say “Look! A real live young person likes us!” Unfortunately, Megan is only one of a dwindling many.

A case for Pittsburgh
By Dave Copeland

Way back at the start of the summer (when, having reviewed the archive, I seemed to be much more bitter) I bashed Megan Branning and her letter to the Post Gazette. Megan finally found my little rant, took the high road and sent me this email last night:

I just read your entry regarding my letter to the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette about Forbe’s magazine’s ranking of Pittsburgh. After reading what you said, I want to clarify some things.

Meaningless Sex

Following up on the previous story…

What Our Kids Know About Sex: All Mechanics, No Meaning

Recently I found myself in a classroom conversation with a group of 15- and 16-year-old girls about sex and relationships. Bogged down at one point over the question of sexual values, I said, “How about if we shift gears? Let’s talk about the meaning that sex is supposed to have in people’s lives. Maybe that will help us think more clearly.” “Meaning?” the girl next to me said, looking totally nonplussed. “Sex is supposed to have meaning? What do you mean by that?” My heart sank.I knew that popular culture had undermined fundamental values, but until that moment I hadn’t realized, or accepted, quite how profoundly. The sexual revolution really is over, I thought, and sex has finally lost.

Great Lesson (Not)

With crap like this, it’s no wonder why so many kids treat sex like it’s a game.

Online Safe Sex Game Attracts 125,000

"In www.SuperShagLand.com, a parody of Nintendo’s hit Super Mario Brothers, an intrepid man or woman chases the boy or girl of their dreams, gaining points for each condom they gather and losing points for drinking alcohol or bumping into monks, nuns or dogs."

Ah…Natural Law

Cohabiting can make marriage an iffy proposition

Even married, men may still feel less committed

An expert addressing a “Smart Marriages” conference this week will drop research on his colleagues that may indeed make some Americans smart.

Researcher Scott Stanley’s case is this: Women living unmarried with guys and expecting a lasting, committed marriage down the line had better review their options. His research finds that men who cohabit with the women they eventually marry are less committed to the union than men who never lived with their spouses ahead of time.

Confirming Intuitions

This article doesn't say anything revolutionary, but it does confirm some intuitions about how men and women differ emotionally.

Men: Breaking Up Is Bad Only if Women Do It First
By Alison McCook

"When rating previous breakups, women view the process of ending of the relationship no differently if they are the dumper or the dumpee–but the same is not true with men, new research shows."

"According to researchers at Francis Marion University in Florence, South Carolina, men believe there was much more scheming on the part of their partners, less finality in the relationship and less working together during the breakup if they were dumped than if they ended the relationship themselves."