http://alesrarus.funkydung.com/archives/3045 A Rare Bird, A Strange Duck, One Funky Blog Tue, 02 Dec 2008 21:36:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc http://alesrarus.funkydung.com/archives/3045#comment-85916 Dawn Thu, 24 Jul 2008 23:48:55 +0000 http://www.dawnpapuga.com/?p=146#comment-85916 I appreciate your comments, thank you! I wasn't necessarily trying to moralize on the matter, but perhaps just rant from my own point of view. I grew up in an addict household and I watched everyone around me "not see" things simply because it was easier to do so. I became the bad guy and the crazy, over-dramatic one when I pointed out behaviors and concerns. I suppose my post was more out of that frustration than it was a dictum on how the world should or should not act. The post was also dealing with every day issues that people don't want to see, and taking responsibility for their part in those issues. Blaming everyone else, or a scape goat, is always easier than accepting that you've contributed to a problem--often for a lot longer than you'd ever think to admit. All in all, I think this post was more of a veiled rant about accountability and looking at things from a detached, unemotional point of view than it was to moralize on behavior. Then again, I'm pretty ill at the moment, and pumped full of medication, so if this doesn't make sense, please forgive the rambling. Again, thanks for the comment!
I wasn't necessarily trying to moralize on the matter, but perhaps just rant from my own point of view. I grew up in an addict household and I watched everyone around me "not see" things simply because it was easier to do so. I became the bad guy and the crazy, over-dramatic one when I pointed out behaviors and concerns. I suppose my post was more out of that frustration than it was a dictum on how the world should or should not act.

The post was also dealing with every day issues that people don't want to see, and taking responsibility for their part in those issues. Blaming everyone else, or a scape goat, is always easier than accepting that you've contributed to a problem–often for a lot longer than you'd ever think to admit.

All in all, I think this post was more of a veiled rant about accountability and looking at things from a detached, unemotional point of view than it was to moralize on behavior.

Then again, I'm pretty ill at the moment, and pumped full of medication, so if this doesn't make sense, please forgive the rambling.

Again, thanks for the comment!]]> http://alesrarus.funkydung.com/archives/3045#comment-84384 Rich | Championable Fri, 18 Jul 2008 19:41:43 +0000 http://www.dawnpapuga.com/?p=146#comment-84384 What you say is largely true. It's also completely incorrect. It depends. In other words, there's a world of gray between your pronunciations about what people should do, and how you judge people who you claim aren't doing anything. Sometimes, there's nothing TO do, because everything has already been done. Sometimes, "doing something" is simply spreading the disease from the addict to the people around the addict to the people around the people around the addict. Like a virus. One other thought... I know a LOT of people who are recovering addicts who completely missed it in someone else. I'm one of them. You're right about the "nagging feeling," but I think you're making a moral issue out of something that isn't a moral issue. Sometimes we miss things that our minds don't want to see. It's not because we're bad people. I agree completely that we are responsible for our own. In a case I'm dealing with presently, taking care of my own means shielding them from a someone who we can no longer help. Hi.
In other words, there's a world of gray between your pronunciations about what people should do, and how you judge people who you claim aren't doing anything.

Sometimes, there's nothing TO do, because everything has already been done. Sometimes, "doing something" is simply spreading the disease from the addict to the people around the addict to the people around the people around the addict. Like a virus.

One other thought… I know a LOT of people who are recovering addicts who completely missed it in someone else. I'm one of them. You're right about the "nagging feeling," but I think you're making a moral issue out of something that isn't a moral issue. Sometimes we miss things that our minds don't want to see. It's not because we're bad people.

I agree completely that we are responsible for our own. In a case I'm dealing with presently, taking care of my own means shielding them from a someone who we can no longer help.

Hi.]]>